Many of you have heard me talk about how we can re-program our beliefs so that they are in alignment with what we want in life, thus reducing the resistance in our minds and bodies and allowing for easier, faster manifestations in life.
Saying an affirmation over and over again (also called auto suggestion) is not one of the fastest ways of reprogramming your beliefs, but it can work, with time and persistence.
The thing about auto suggestion is, it can occur not just in the things we say to ourselves, but from the things the people around us say to us.
This morning I woke up and thought about my life, and had the thought “It will all be ok”. It was a thought that calmed me down and made me feel optimistic – about everything.
Now, as a recovering worryaholic, I realized this is a good thought for me to have. I recognized instantly where it came from. Though I have now internalized it, it was not my thought, originally.
It is a thought that came from my husband. This is something he constantly tells me, usually when I am having an amygdala freak-out (the amygdala is the part of the brain which controls fear. It’s larger in women, by the way).
Essentially, he has said it to me so much, I am now experiencing it as one of my own thoughts 🙂
He’ll be thrilled to hear this, by the way. And be even more thrilled to know that I actually felt what that was like, to tell myself it will all be ok. I felt my entire body relax and a wave of relaxation washed over me.
I write this to make you aware of the effect the people around you can have on your thought patterns, which is why it is so important, if you want to reach your full potential and live your optimal joy-filled life, to surround yourself with people who have a baseline of positive energy and thoughts. After all, it is said, we become the culmination of the 5 people we hang out with the most.
Parents and teachers: children are absolute sponges. They are observing, hearing, and/or feeling everything you say to them and often internalizing it – rapidly. Often what I have to work on with people I am coaching is programming that happened in childhood that is no longer serving them. This is not to blame, simply to create awareness.
If we are being conscious humans, we realize that everything we are saying is influencing someone else’s reality.
Pay attention to what you say. It just might become someone else’s reality – especially your own. We all have the opportunity to uplift – or crush – with our words and actions.
Personally, I’ll keep envisioning a world where we all create from a space of love – not fear.
Only love is real.